Most couples enter the idea of a threesome with the hope of spicing up their relationship and exploring new sexual experiences, but it doesn't always go the way they imagined.
Find out with us whether a threesome is truly right for you, or if it's better to keep that fantasy on hold.
Threesome or Classic?
Threesomes can, in many cases, breathe new life into a relationship. They allow you to explore your sexuality and turn long-held fantasies into reality. However, threesomes aren’t for everyone — and if all participants don’t communicate openly and clearly, this type of play can lead to serious issues.
In extreme cases, it may even result in a breakup or divorce. First and foremost, it depends on your personal values and your overall view on relationships. If you're open-minded and not prone to jealousy, there's nothing stopping you from trying a threesome in a loving, stable relationship.
However, most people still prefer to explore bold sexual practices outside of committed relationships, or in more casual setups without emotional attachments. This way, there’s less risk involved and you don’t have to worry about losing your long-term love over a fantasy.
But even if you decide to experiment, always prioritize honest and open communication.
How to Experiment Safely in a Relationship
If you and your partner have already decided that a threesome is the right step for you, it’s time to start planning. Even during the planning stage, don’t forget to communicate — and make sure everyone involved is on the same page.
It’s very possible that your partner initially agrees, but as the moment of realization approaches, they may start to feel uncomfortable and want to back out.
That’s perfectly okay. If you want to avoid relationship problems, it’s important to listen to your partner.
And remember: emotions and feelings should not play a role in a threesome.
The third person involved should not be a romantic partner for either of you, but rather someone you're comfortable sharing intimacy with.
If that boundary is crossed, it’s easy to fall into a love triangle — and those almost never end happily.
During the act itself, be sure to consider the third person’s feelings and ensure they fully consent to everything that's happening.
Overcoming Shyness Through Massage
One common obstacle in threesomes is shyness or discomfort. Many people are used to sharing intimacy only with their partner, and even then, they may struggle with body image or confidence.
One way to overcome this is through erotic massage, which can help you relax and explore your sexuality in a safe, non-judgmental space.
These massages are provided by trained professionals, and the fact that you don’t know the masseuse can make it easier to let go of inhibitions.
You’ll learn how to feel comfortable being intimate around someone you're not emotionally involved with — a valuable step if you're considering a threesome.
Couples can even go for a duo massage session, allowing you to take a step forward together.
It’s a great way to push your boundaries gently and see if you’re comfortable relaxing in the presence of others.Still, communication is key, never pressure your partner into joint massages. Take small steps and never rush the process.
